CFMR Blog
These reflections offer psychoeducation through a compassion-based awareness lens, exploring how we suffer, how survival patterns organize experience, and how attention and language support healing. Familiar concepts are revisited and new language introduced, often in ways that differ from traditional psychological frameworks.
We are all just walking each other home.
— Ram Dass
Healing Myth: “If things feel worse, healing isn’t working”
When healing begins to touch what was once kept out of view, distress can increase rather than resolve. Feeling worse does not necessarily mean something has gone wrong. It often reflects greater access to sensations, emotions, and memories that were once buffered in order to survive. Healing is not always experienced as relief. Sometimes it is the nervous system reorganizing as new associations of safety begin to form.
Healing Myth #1: The Fantasy of “Getting Past It”
Many people come to therapy expecting healing to put the past behind them. This piece explores why trauma lives in the present, and how healing asks us to stay rather than resolve.